FROM BILL HARRIS: "If humans didn’t discriminate, they would not survive." Is Discrimination really Necessary?
I had been talking and thinking about good-bad discrimination and categorizing.
If we are taught that boys are smarter than girls, as an example, this sets up a category of smart people= boys, and dumb or "other" people= girls. This allows discrimination in salaries, service, health care, quality of clothing and cost of hair cuts.
Some people are very discriminating about hair. This changes with fashion. In the 1960's, long straight hair was beautiful, and today I think that curls are preferred. In the 1960's, a small behind was preferred, and today, I am quite sure the opposite is true. -- Do any of these discriminations have anything to do with human survival?
If a man cuts me off on the highway, and I allow it. Am I less discriminating than a person who, in a rage, goes off chasing him? He might have had a wife giving birth in the car, or a mother-in-law who had stopped breathing and he was rushing to the hospital. -- Was his action good or bad? Am I less human or do I have less survival value than the person who responded angrily because he discriminated that man's driving behavior as "bad"?
People often talk about impermanence as something negative. When talking about impermanence,
recently said about impermanence:
"Many who seek spiritual awareness, for instance, mistakenly think that spiritual awakening is a way of eliminating this “negative” side of the coin."
Reasons to Embrace Change
Why can't we just accept the winter and loss of leaves, or the change in smell of the ocean without a negative side at all? When you talked about our lives being part of the One in the way that a wave is part of the ocean, didn't that imply that the wave will move and disappear as another few molecules become the next wave? Do you think that wave ought to think of this as "bad"?
I submit that thinking of change as necessary rather than inevitable and as nurturing rather than as unavoidable is a way to remove the good-bad categorizing that you seem to be struggling with.
And, to return to my struggle with whether or not we, as humans, need to categorize. Children learn to categorize when they are learning language. Tall, short, fat, thin, bigger, smaller, round-square-triangle. Learning to sort in multiple ways is part of cognitive testing.
And, we do need to have preferences in order to make decisions in our lives. Some prefer their tea hot, and others prefer ice tea. Some prefer blue sweaters and some prefer red. The mistake is in allowing children to make the judgment, "Red is better" or "Hot is better".
Some children think that "Reading is more fun" and others think that "Running is the most fun." They are discriminating, but the statement is not correct. I mentioned to a professional cellist that my granddaughter wants to learn to play the violin. He asked, "Why does she want to play the violin?"
When Paul Cezanne and Edgar Degas were alive, discriminating people thought their paintings were terrible.
Back to impermanence. I loved impermanence as a child. I was delighted with each new ability I gained, and with each new inch I grew. During my 20 to 40 years, I resisted impermanence with every fiber of my being. Now that I am beyond that, I am happy with impermanence again. I am seeing that change brings growth and an opportunity to learn. Learning keeps me young.
Holosync is a big part of this for me and certainly brings change. So, is change good or bad? I think it's energy.
I am not discriminating about my "spirituality". I am not saying that acceptance of change is better or worse than not accepting change. It is up to you whether you accept it or not, but I have found that accepting it gives me a lot more energy for moving with it. Like surfing or sailing; if you use the energy of the wave or the energy of the wind, you're going to have more fun and use less energy than if you struggle to stay in one place.
Accepting myself does not include discrimination, does it? If I start to compare my $ wealth against Bill Gates, I would be less happy with myself. And, if I compare it against Thoreau in his Walden Pond stage, I might come up feeling good about myself. If I compare my appearance against an Avatar, should I feel better about myself because I'm not blue? And, if I compare myself against a model in her 20's, wouldn't I feel badly again?
Five reasons discrimination is debilitating:
1) Any attempt to Control will soon make you sick2) Constant comparison of you, your children and your family will cause unhappiness, frustration and depression3) Playing the "good-bad" game is never ending and will take up your whole life without a good outcome. 4) You forget to honor "your own drummer" when you are a discriminating person.This leads to unhappiness. 5) Our bodies respond well to happiness and will make genetic changes when we are unhappy.
I think that discrimination is the problem, and not necessary for survival at all. I am who I am. I am not you. I am not Henry David Thoreau. Yet, we are all part of the One.
Dr. Bruce Lipton
suggests that we learn to operate as members of an ecosystem. He reminds us that the cells in our body become part of the heart, or the lungs, and they continue in that roll for the good of the organism.
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